Being the Whole Person You Are
The fact is that no one is really more or less than anyone else in the grand scheme of the universe, so to attempt to appear so is futile and just plain silly.
There are many ways in which we can distinguish ourselves if we so desire, in a positive way, such as being more enlightened or in terms of having suffered as a result experiencing trauma, but the fact remains that any such event or accomplishment is only a part of who we are and should not be used as a label to describe us.
We have many labels in life, mother, son, teacher, alcoholic, survivor of a disease, etc.
, but these are not who were truly are.
They are only pieces of the puzzle, yet we tend to label ourselves with these roles and events as if they were truly the total picture.
Of course, in this incarnation, if you are a mother, you will always be one, but you are also a woman and daughter and possibly a doctor or an artist, these we can call roles.
However, when you have gone through certain events, such as a natural disaster or illness, these are not roles, but events that have occurred and ended.
By perpetuating them you are keeping the experience alive and most likely it is not one you wish to keep alive.
In addition, you are remaining in a situation of victimization, not a place in which any of us should want find ourselves.
I think most people would be surprised how many others have experienced trauma in their lives, the thing to remember is that some people move on and others take that part of them and keep it alive for one reason or another.
In some cases it is because they have not dealt with their emotions and in others it is to get sympathy, either way it boils down to one of two things, the reason the event occurred in that person's life has not been acknowledged and the lessons that could have been learned, have not.
When this happens, a part of the person becomes separated from the whole and will not be integrated back until the experience is approached from a spiritual, energetic perspective.
The healthy approach is, yes this happened and yes it was painful, but it is over and I must continue in my life and pursuit of happiness and person growth and I'm not going without that part of me.
I lost both my parents in a space of six months and was very sad, until one day I thought to myself that they would not want me to be unhappy, so I did everything I could to pull myself out of my impending state of depression.
So you see it does no one good allow themselves to be labeled a "fill in the blank survivor" or a "fill in the blank victim" because we are all survivors by definition and by default of being alive.
In addition, there is nothing good about being a victim so don't even start down that road.
Be the whole being that you are and when someone asks who you are, you can say, I'm me.